Fear Speaking In Public

Does this sound familiar?   Feet resolutely frozen to the floor, white-knuckled hands glued to the lectern, abject fear written all over your face?  If this sounds like you, then it is time you learned how to ‘let go and let be’ in public speaking. 

When I talk about color – the life, the animation, the emotion we express in public speaking – I am talking about more than what your voice is saying.  Much of how we express ourselves is seen in our body language.  The question is:  what is your body saying when you deliver your speech or presentation?

I once had a student who stood perfectly still next to the overhead projector as she delivered her stilted presentation, nary moving a muscle aside from her lips.  I doubt she even blinked.  Her only ‘extracurricular’ movement occurred when she had to change the slides, at which point she stopped talking, maneuvered the slide, proceeded to resume her frozen stance, and then continued speaking.

This young lady received an F on that particular presentation because she did not do what she had been instructed to do.  She never moved.  She never glanced throughout the classroom.  She never acknowledged her audience.  Yes, her presentation, though flat, and emotionless, was word-for-word perfect.  She made no mistakes in that respect. 

Her lack of body movement as well as any form of expression, however, was the mistake.  If you want your audience’s attention you must speak to them by not only displaying variety in your voice but also by speaking to them with the language of your body.

If you stand at the lectern and do not move, your audience will move.  And, their movement signals their boredom with you as a speaker.  The more bored your audience, the greater the amount of movement.  Dynamic speakers keep their audience riveted; and, in doing so, are able to keep their audience on the edge of their seats.   

If you remain perfectly still, clutching the lectern in a death grip, your audience will be aware of your obvious discomfort and will focus on your discomfort and not on your message.

When it comes to your body language, if you ‘let go and let be’, you will then be able to focus on what you are saying and not on your nervousness.

I’m a professional psychologist, a member of Rotary, a book author (on achievement motivation), a resume writer and career coach, and someone who has heard an endless number of professional and non-professional speakers for over 30 years. I’ve seen how it’s the little things that make a big difference. Here are 7 “little things” you can do that will instantly improve your public speaking dramatically.

1. TALK TWICE AS SLOW. Most speakers (even professional ones) talk too fast. Have you ever listened carefully to professional speakers on TV? They talk slower than in normal conversational speech. Slow down. Take your time. Don’t rush through individual words. Linger on them. It may feel unnatural, but just listen to a tape recording of yourself. It will undoubtedly sound a lot better.

2. TALK TWICE AS LOUD. Most speakers talk too softly. Speak up. It may seem to you that you are screaming, but (again) a tape recording will prove that it sounds fine.

3. ENUNCIATE THE CONSONANT SOUNDS CLEARLY. When we listen, we hear clearly because of the consonant sounds (the “hard” sounds – sss, t, d, p, m, and so forth), not the vowels (a, e, i, o, and u). Pay attention to those hard sounds. Make sure they are clear and distinct. Exaggerate them.

4. USE SHORT SENTENCES. You may like speaking in long, long sentences, but your audience doesn’t. Break up your ideas into short sentences. “Once idea per sentence” is as good a rule for speaking as it is for writing.

5. PAUSE OFTEN. Forget the ummmms and the aaahhhhs. Dead silence for a few seconds may seem like an eternity to you, but an audience doesn’t mind it at all. Take your time. Pausing creates interest and anticipation.

6. ORGANIZE YOUR TALK AROUND 3 TO 5 BULLET POINTS. No matter what you may think of off-the-cuff speeches and how entertaining they may be, nobody likes rambling on and on. Whatever you have to say, put it in the form of 3 to 5 bullet points. You’ll make listeners out of your audience.

7. SAVE THE BEST FOR LAST. What is the most important, the most dramatic, the most impactful thing you have to say in your talk? Figure out what it is, and PUT IT LAST. That’s the most effective way to end a talk.

Preparation for public speaking is more than fact-finding or effective writing and then repeating the words by rote to your audience. Learning the more subtle skills like voice control and modulation, paper and equipment handling, posture and presentation, humor and timing, ease and confidence all require preparation.
Preparation techniques for public speaking includes practice, “real” practice, not just memorization. We’re all familiar with the adage, Practice make perfect”. But practice does not make perfect,Perfect Practice Makes Perfect.
Practice in front of a mirror 10 to 15 minutes a day, two or three times until the event. Practice speaking at the correct volume for the crowd and room size. You do not want to be overpowering or too faint to be heard.
Speak slowly and clearly. After reading a line, pause and look in the mirror, pretending you are looking at the audience, then return to your speech and repeat. To get immediate and realistic feedback, record your speech into a tape recorder and then listen critically.
You will hear where your strong points lie and the areas that need improvement. Doing that even once is worth ten silent read-throughs In the same way, one stand-up practice in front of friends and family members is worth ten read-alouds in front of a mirror. There will be nothing as helpful as practice and preparation to reduce or eliminate fear of public speaking. Practice, practice, practice.
Visualize your presentation in advance. Not only will your proficiency be increased by visualization, but so will your self confidence. Visualize yourself standing erect and proud, giving a flawless speech, the audience eager to hear every word. See yourself up on stage, fearless and powerful, connecting with your audience. Feel your pride. Hear the applause.
The fear of public speaking ranks high in the ratings of phobias. One of just many of the reasons for this is because of fear that someone in the audience may ask a difficult question after your speech, so anticipate and be ready with answers. There may of course be a question you haven’t anticipated and don’t know the answer to. Simply state, “I don’t know, but I’ll find out and get back to you”. This will help eliminate your fear of ‘unanswerable questions’ and you can concentrate on your presentation.
Using these preparation techniques for public speaking will help to reduce or eliminate your stage fright. You’ve never learned how to do anything hard without practice, and speaking is the same way. Practice. You owe it to yourself and your audience.

You’re asked to go to the front of the class to discuss the angst of Proust’s literary work or to demonstrate how a pulley works. You’re confident about the topic. It’s the thought of speaking in front of the class that terrifies you, yet there’s no escape. How to survive? Here is how.You Can Do It
Learning public speaking is like an attempt to conquer Mt. Everest. It takes some spunk before you can speak to a crowd without quaking or freezing up. Well, it’s a humbling experience to accept that you’re no orator or charismatic speaker, and it takes courage to do something about it.
Eventually, after much effort at learning public speaking, you’ll be ready to take on the world. You won’t be lighting too many cigarettes with one of your Zippo lighters before a speaking engagement. Not anymore.
How to go about it? You have several options. Sign up with Toastmasters International, discreetly look around for speech tutors, or join a drama group. Or, you can purchase e-books on public speaking, which you can learn at home behind locked doors.
With persistence, you can beat the fear factor in public speaking. It may take a while, but people will soon notice that you’re becoming a confident and lively speaker. This development will be good for your class presentations and your chances for future employment, so these should be enough motivation for you.Speech Problems You Can CorrectStuttering has caused millions of people to agonize over this speech disorder. People who stutter find it difficult to get the sounds out, and they end up repeating part of a word. ‘Water’ is ‘wawawater’, and they get all red when they catch knowing smiles. But with speech therapy and the support of your family, you can get past this problem.Cluttering is the opposite of stuttering. Someone who clutters talks too fast in spurts, sounding jerky, or is simply unsure of what he or she wants to say because of the long pauses between words.Mispronunciation – People laugh or feel awkward when they hear a public speaker mispronounce words. A structured session at the speech laboratory with a speech therapist can solve the problem.Unnecessary fillers – If you count the number of times you say “uh” in your speech, you might be astounded at your propensity to dispense with speech fillers.Regional accents – You shouldn’t be ashamed of your regional accent, but sometimes the embarrassment caused is worse than the fear of catching a deadly virus.Weak voice – Finding yourself repeating a word to be heard? Blame this on a small weak voice, but vocal exercises can strengthen your vocal muscles. Having a medical professional evaluate the condition can also detect serious respiratory or other ailments.Nasal voice – You have a nasal voice if you are talking though your nose. Just pinch your nose and speak, if you have trouble releasing your voice, then you are nasal as they come.Where to Go From Here
Get a book about public speaking and join organizations like Toastmasters and Speaking Circles. Joining a speaking group is more interesting than practicing before a mirror.
You’ll meet more people and forge new friendships, learn from the experience of others, and get good advice. In the aftermath of all your struggles, you might start talking non-stop – but that is another disorder.

People who get paid well to speak all share one of two traits: either they’re famous, or they own “The Skills”. To be able to move people who don’t know you as a celebrity of some sort, you must know how to keep your audience focused on you and your message, and how to keep them on the same page, on the same wavelength, every step of the way.
Keeping an audience with you is simply not possible with the way 99% of all public speakers behave when at the front of a group. When you speak the way most of us have been taught to do from an early age, you engage in behaviors that send the wrong signals to your audience – in many cases exactly the opposite of what you would like to signal. Worse, these standard behaviors actually reduce your cognitive capacity at the time you most desperately need it.
If these statements seem sweeping, please understand that we at PublicSpeakingSkills.com have been training people from business, politics, the military and the clergy for over 12 years in The Skills.
During that time, we have had the privilege to work with over 10,000 people from all walks of life, and here is what we have learned: 99% of speakers engage in exactly the same behaviors, and consequently produce similar results when it comes to the quality of their speaking.
In fact, in every one of our on-site programs, we begin with an exercise that “benchmarks” how each student speaks prior to training, and we are able to predict to the second what each and every participant will do during their initial delivery. To the second!
Good News!
But that’s the good news. It’s good news because we also know that most people speak the way they do simply because they’ve never been shown the proper way. And though many people take courses in public speaking in high school or college, the format of those courses tends to emphasize the content part of speaking rather than the actual physical behaviors one needs to understand in order to acquire The Skills.
If you have ever taken a course in school, we bet that your assignments were to create a series of different types of speeches: The Informative, The Inspirational, The Motivational, etc., etc. Sound familiar?
But what were you taught about the actual delivery, other than to look at everyone in the audience and watch your umms and ahhs? Worse, during your speaking career you probably have been receiving positive feedback for your behaviors no matter what you’ve been doing by people either too polite or simply not knowledgeable enough to tell you otherwise.
Speaking well: talent or training?
When people learn the proper way; when they understand what the audience expects of them as human beings; when they embrace the idea that it’s OK to go into a presentation without having spent hours and hours rehearsing it; when they become comfortable with not knowing what they’re going to say until just before they say it; and when they come to accept that often the most powerful thing they can say is nothing at all, they never engage in the old behaviors again.
They approach every opportunity to speak to a crowd with desire and enthusiasm, and the larger the crowd, the better. They actually see speaking to a group as one of the most relaxing things they can do, as it is one of the few times left in life where they are free to do only one thing at a time. These people have The Skills.
And we can’t emphasize enough that The Skills are, indeed, a set of behaviors that you learn, and not something that you are born with. Only a very small subset of people is ‘born’ with the ability to move a group to action with their words and actions. Those people have what the rest of us don’t: it’s called “charisma”. Charismatics have been known to lead thousands to action by the power of their spoken words, often for good, and sometimes not.
But charisma alone didn’t get Bill Clinton to the top job in the world. Bill Clinton, believe it or not, was not always a great speaker. What he had was both charisma and the brains to know that he did not know everything – and that becoming a great speaker was both an essential job requirement and something that someone could be taught.
Bill Clinton was one of only a handful of men who was elected president of the United States without great personal or family wealth. He got elected on his ability to motivate people to listen to him, work for him, follow him and support him all the way. He was successful because he didn’t simply speak; he spoke with a manner and a style that caused people to not only listen to his words but also to hear them, remember them, and to believe them. Bill Clinton has The Skills.
The Skills supersede genes, culture, background, heritage, and to a large extent even education. Many clients come to us because they want help with their accents or they feel their voice needs correcting in some way.
Although we grant that there are some people with a speaking voice better suited to silent films, for the vast majority an accent or unique pitch only adds to the level of interest they can create as a speaker. That’s because, as we’ll learn, these traits simply add to one’s “humanness”.
It’s about being you
People are not moved by messages delivered by speakers whom they don’t feel are “real”. And yet most of us were taught behaviors that cause us to adopt completely alien personas when we speak to groups. We try to become “Presenterman!” or “Presenterwoman!”. Sadly, Hillary Clinton does this. Could you imagine spending dinner across the table from Hillary Clinton and having her speak to you the way she does to crowds? Pretty painful thought! Yet you could pretty much imagine that if you were sharing dinner with Bill, or Ronald Reagan, the conversation would be not unlike how you know them to speak in public.
Alas, Hillary does not have The Skills.

You might think that you are the best speaker and despite could not manage to grab the attention of the audience you ever spoke before. You might have prepared your presentation after a week long grueling effort but the impact was only 10% or so. This leaves you wondering why have you not been successful at public speeches and presentations although you possess enough knowledge and also do have the required skills. The introduction, the body part and the conclusion all have been spoken in an orderly manner but little it did to captivate the audience.

It can be said then that saying a word is one thing and how it affects the audience is another and the only thing to win over your audience. The great industry speakers often use contemporary jargons and the quotes by famous authors so as to allure the audience.  But looking back at the history of these leading speakers tell us how to avoid the common errors which often a speaker commits and how to develop the art of public speaking. No doubt, a lot of effort goes into the public speaking and the perfection is achieved after a continuous practice and systematic learning.

Often a speaker gets amazed at how the people react to the speeches made at a conference or a seminar. A listener may either nod his head in your favour or shake showing his disapproval and may even doze off if the speech or presentation is not liked by him. At times, it becomes difficult to appease the entire crowd of listeners.

By paying heed to the following common mistakes which often a speaker commits, you can win over the audience.

•Starting without saying “thank-you”: Many speakers especially who are novice commit this mistake. They start with the subject without saying thank you.  The people  like to be given importance and they feel great when they are being told “thank-you”. Contrary to this, if the speech is being delivered internally within the organization, there is no need to say this word.

•Not maintaining an eye-contact: There are speakers who are good and can influence the audience but somehow during the speech can not maintain an eye-contact with the audience. The speaker reads out the lines of entire subject from the projector screen or somehow while speaking is not able to make eye-to-eye contact. This is the biggest mistake one can commit and must be avoided at all costs.

•Taking long pauses while speaking: Many speakers take long pauses because of the reason that they miss out on words. They are not very good communicators and also do not convey the right message while speaking. The use of right words is very-very important. This can be effected by taking up breathing exercises and also practicing to speak for long. In toto, the speaker should be able to say a sentence by maintaining a continuum.

•Shaking or moving while speaking: Often speakers are seen to be moving their hands and body while speaking. The body language is an asset and this should be utilized to make the best use of your opportunity as a speaker. Be comfortable and maintain your posture by standing straight. This is especially so when you are using a podium.

•Speaking the by hearted text: Some speakers just speak those words which seem to be by hearted. Never do this as it creates a negative impression. Speak in either a conversational tone or in a such a manner that it should seem to be authentic and spoken straight from the heart. Aditionally, have your own style which should look original and also do not imitate any other speaker.

The voice-modulation is also very important and maintaining clarity in your voice will lend you credibility whenever you stand up to speak. Above all, in order to be a good speaker, you also need to be a good observer too.

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While some academics may argue that one’s content is more important than one’s delivery, I beg to differ.

If one’s delivery is of lesser value than one’s content, why not copy the speech, pass it out, and then everyone can go home or back to work?  Assuming your audience is there to hear you speak about a topic of interest to them, is it not advisable to deliver your material in an engaging fashion?  Why not captivate your audience?  No matter how well-written your content, a boring delivery doesn’t sell. 

Given the opportunity to hear Henry Kissinger or Bill Clinton give a speech, I would sooner listen to Clinton.  Without a doubt, Kissinger’s material is going to be much more erudite than that of the former President; however, Mr. Kissinger’s style of delivery is non-existent.  His voice is dour; he speaks in a monotone; and, he has absolutely no expression. 

Having taught Public Speaking as well as Voice & Diction and Oral Interpretation, I found that, in the beginning of the course, my students tended to be stronger in their content than in their abilities to present.  I therefore spent much of the time on improving those skills.  Differing from others teaching Public Speaking, I never gave them exams on ‘book material.’  Their presentations were their exams.  Public Speaking is a practical course, much like acting or music.   Memorizing terminology, rules or theory for a test in this particular subject is of lesser value than the application and practical usage of that material.

Public speaking is exactly what it says:  speaking in public.  Your audience came to hear you talk to them.  If you are giving a speech, you will be reading it; and, if have strong delivery skills, your audience will not know that you are reading.  They will think you are talking to them.  If you are making a presentation, again you will be talking to your audience, using note cards or some form of visual aid to keep you on topic.

No matter what you intend to deliver to the public, however, ideally you want your content to be as well crafted as possible.   Remember, when we listen to others speaking, we generally regard them as experts in their field.  Thus, you must craft your presentation as well as the experts do. 

If you believe, on the other hand, that your content is more important than your delivery and your speaking skills are poor, watch your audience’s reaction.  There will be more coughing, more yawning, more talking amongst themselves, and definitely more sleepers.  Should the setting allow for it, some will even get up and leave.

Why not look at the picture differently?  Craft your content well, deliver it in a dynamic fashion and you have a win-win situation.  Both are of value; both are important. 

The great Roman orator, Cicero, said, “Without effective delivery, a speech of the highest mental capacity can be held in no esteem, while one of the moderate abilities, with this qualification, may surpass even those of the highest talent.” 

I couldn’t agree more which is why I’d still rather listen to Clinton than Kissinger!

     Fear of public speaking can prevent you from achieving great accomplishments that most of the people who have triumphed over the fear of public speaking are enjoying.you need to steal the light from your competitors by speaking in a breathtaking manner in front of others.for instance,in a business meeting.public speaking is the skill that you need to be armed with when you are to set for a job interview and so on so forth.Hence,fortifying yourself with this invaluable skill can give you an unfair advantage over your competitors.over the following lines,you will learn the very techniques than you need to apply before you launch your public speaking event :

1) The most important aspect of your presentation is your audience, as meeting their expectations about what you have to say is your first and foremost concern.for this purpose,studying the audience is the first thing to do in order for you to understand them well and hence communicate with them based on what you learnt.to do this effectively,ask yourself the following questions:

- what are their educational background about the subject matter?

-their age,gender and sexual orientation?,marital status?,occupations?

-do I know something about their interests? values? political views? religious believes?

-what the audience know? What they want to know? And what are their reasons to listen?

-……etc

Got it? Great,by answering these questions,you are in the right track in building a successful relation with the audience.

2) decide what is the purpose of your presentation.usually,we present in order to inform,entertain or persuade,determine the specific objective of this presentation by limiting the area of research in your preparation stage.to help you more,the specific purpose is what the main message you want your audience to grasp.now the way is paved for the preparation stage.

3)after you have determining the focus of your public speaking event,It’s time to research your topic.your audience are expecting an thorough and brand new information about the subject matter.so take your time in exploring the topic so as to satisfy their needs.here are some resources you may want to use :

-Books

-encyclopedias

-newspapers

-magazines

-atlases

-professional journals

-audio recording

-videos

-T.V

-Interviews

-Internet

You can copy the exact content with the respect of the copywriting laws,paraphrase paragraphs or simply summarize content.

4)Now we’ve reached the last step in your preparation process.Once you have found the needed information,now it’s time to organize them.perhaps the easiest way is to divide them into : introduction,body and conclusion.

You may want to start organizing your introduction first however,start with the body will help to reach a great introduction.

Look at your research list components and see how you can divide them into easy-to-remember points.a short speech of 5 minutes should not contain more than three or four main points.determining your body will effectively generate great introduction and conclusion.in most cases,your introduction should function as an attention grabber and tease the curiosity of the listeners.

While the introduction induces the audience to listen,the conclusion should serve the purpose of reviewing the main points and shape them in a way that makes them digestible .finally,insert a well structured sentence that ensure to leave a great impression about you and your presentation.

     Fear of public speaking can prevent you from achieving great accomplishments that most of the people who have triumphed over the fear of public speaking are enjoying.you need to steal the light from your competitors by speaking in a breathtaking manner in front of others.for instance,in a business meeting.public speaking is the skill that you need to be armed with when you are to set for a job interview and so on so forth.Hence,fortifying yourself with this invaluable skill can give you an unfair advantage over your competitors.over the following lines,you will learn the very techniques than you need to apply before you launch your public speaking event :

1) The most important aspect of your presentation is your audience, as meeting their expectations about what you have to say is your first and foremost concern.for this purpose,studying the audience is the first thing to do in order for you to understand them well and hence communicate with them based on what you learnt.to do this effectively,ask yourself the following questions:

- what are their educational background about the subject matter?

-their age,gender and sexual orientation?,marital status?,occupations?

-do I know something about their interests? values? political views? religious believes?

-what the audience know? What they want to know? And what are their reasons to listen?

-……etc

Got it? Great,by answering these questions,you are in the right track in building a successful relation with the audience.

2) decide what is the purpose of your presentation.usually,we present in order to inform,entertain or persuade,determine the specific objective of this presentation by limiting the area of research in your preparation stage.to help you more,the specific purpose is what the main message you want your audience to grasp.now the way is paved for the preparation stage.

3)after you have determining the focus of your public speaking event,It’s time to research your topic.your audience are expecting an thorough and brand new information about the subject matter.so take your time in exploring the topic so as to satisfy their needs.here are some resources you may want to use :

-Books

-encyclopedias

-newspapers

-magazines

-atlases

-professional journals

-audio recording

-videos

-T.V

-Interviews

-Internet

You can copy the exact content with the respect of the copywriting laws,paraphrase paragraphs or simply summarize content.

4)Now we’ve reached the last step in your preparation process.Once you have found the needed information,now it’s time to organize them.perhaps the easiest way is to divide them into : introduction,body and conclusion.

You may want to start organizing your introduction first however,start with the body will help to reach a great introduction.

Look at your research list components and see how you can divide them into easy-to-remember points.a short speech of 5 minutes should not contain more than three or four main points.determining your body will effectively generate great introduction and conclusion.in most cases,your introduction should function as an attention grabber and tease the curiosity of the listeners.

While the introduction induces the audience to listen,the conclusion should serve the purpose of reviewing the main points and shape them in a way that makes them digestible .finally,insert a well structured sentence that ensure to leave a great impression about you and your presentation.

     Fear of public speaking can prevent you from achieving great accomplishments that most of the people who have triumphed over the fear of public speaking are enjoying.you need to steal the light from your competitors by speaking in a breathtaking manner in front of others.for instance,in a business meeting.public speaking is the skill that you need to be armed with when you are to set for a job interview and so on so forth.Hence,fortifying yourself with this invaluable skill can give you an unfair advantage over your competitors.over the following lines,you will learn the very techniques than you need to apply before you launch your public speaking event :

1) The most important aspect of your presentation is your audience, as meeting their expectations about what you have to say is your first and foremost concern.for this purpose,studying the audience is the first thing to do in order for you to understand them well and hence communicate with them based on what you learnt.to do this effectively,ask yourself the following questions:

- what are their educational background about the subject matter?

-their age,gender and sexual orientation?,marital status?,occupations?

-do I know something about their interests? values? political views? religious believes?

-what the audience know? What they want to know? And what are their reasons to listen?

-……etc

Got it? Great,by answering these questions,you are in the right track in building a successful relation with the audience.

2) decide what is the purpose of your presentation.usually,we present in order to inform,entertain or persuade,determine the specific objective of this presentation by limiting the area of research in your preparation stage.to help you more,the specific purpose is what the main message you want your audience to grasp.now the way is paved for the preparation stage.

3)after you have determining the focus of your public speaking event,It’s time to research your topic.your audience are expecting an thorough and brand new information about the subject matter.so take your time in exploring the topic so as to satisfy their needs.here are some resources you may want to use :

-Books

-encyclopedias

-newspapers

-magazines

-atlases

-professional journals

-audio recording

-videos

-T.V

-Interviews

-Internet

You can copy the exact content with the respect of the copywriting laws,paraphrase paragraphs or simply summarize content.

4)Now we’ve reached the last step in your preparation process.Once you have found the needed information,now it’s time to organize them.perhaps the easiest way is to divide them into : introduction,body and conclusion.

You may want to start organizing your introduction first however,start with the body will help to reach a great introduction.

Look at your research list components and see how you can divide them into easy-to-remember points.a short speech of 5 minutes should not contain more than three or four main points.determining your body will effectively generate great introduction and conclusion.in most cases,your introduction should function as an attention grabber and tease the curiosity of the listeners.

While the introduction induces the audience to listen,the conclusion should serve the purpose of reviewing the main points and shape them in a way that makes them digestible .finally,insert a well structured sentence that ensure to leave a great impression about you and your presentation.